February Schmebruary — Getting through Valentine’s Day as a single person
I have always loved Valentine’s Day, even though I can’t really think back on any one particular year when it was the spectacular celebration of love that we all dream of. So why do I still love this holiday so much? Because I still believe in love, and I still love to see love celebrated in all its forms. What else is there really? Doesn’t everything begin with love, even if it is the simple act of learning to love ourselves more? I have started a new practice of self-compassion and love recently and I find when I start my day loving myself, I have more love to give to others. The practice is, each morning when I make my cup of coffee with all that nice frothy milk, I make a heart on the top of the white froth with black coffee, I look at the heart and I say “I love you”. And I remind myself “I will always support you, no matter what. I will always love you, and I will always have your back.” I remember a while back listening to a TedTalks speaker on YouTube, and she said “before we can marry another, we have to marry ourselves.” I thought it was such a strange thing to say and I wasn’t immediately absorbing the concept. And then she said (and I’m paraphrasing here) every morning we have to ‘promise to “love, honor and cherish” ourselves” till death do us part. And then I got it. How can we love, honor and cherish another if we haven’t even learned how to be that kind to ourselves?
So here’s to love, honoring and cherishing ourselves each day, so as we go out into the world, we can have that mirrored back to us in all of our daily interactions, whether it is with the local grocery clerk or our dearly beloved. Happy loving. May we all be love all year, and not just on the 14th of February.